You probably read a lot of articles and watch tons of videos on the internet about the proper way of balancing life and work. But are they exactly the fundamentals of living? Well, you don’t have to oppose the idea of work-life balance if you want. However, you might have to consider health and wellness for that matter.
Life As You Know It
You probably wonder about the quality of life you are having right now. You can’t say that you perfectly managed your time, family, friends, and job all at their expense because that’s way too impossible to do. Honestly, the whole idea of balancing things all together is doing more harm than good. The truth is, there’s no virtue of adjusting things in life without having to sacrifice a more significant part of it. And real talk, there’s no perfect management for everything. You may feel okay with the concept of life balance in general. That when it fits nicely to your ways, you become eager to repeat the routine over and over again. But it’s not always easy at it seems. Yes, work and life can both go along with each other. But there’s only one problem with that though. And that’s the assumption that work is separated from your life and doesn’t affect your overall health. The idea doesn’t make sense because these three things don’t exclusively function separately.
Your work and health is the fundamental component of your life. Therefore, you can’t balance only a part of it without touching the other portion. It becomes a delusion that you think you can potentially segregate the things you have to do with the stuff you need and want to do. Sticking to this kind of mentality will only make you suffer throughout your life. Let’s state a scenario that will make you understand more.
Perhaps you want to go out with friends and attend a party. Maybe drink a little. You know you “want it.” But you also have to be in the office early in the morning. You “need” to be there. You also know that even though you’ll be happy bonding with friends, you might end up drinking a lot. You know that’s going to be bad for your health. But let’s assume you did all three things together. You hung out with friends, drank a lot of alcohol, and went to the office early in the morning. Yes, it is an achievement. But how does it make you feel after? Is it that fulfilling? Of course, it’s not.
Every Decisions Matter
With that particular instance, the only thing you can do is choose between the options. Either you will attend the party and don’t go to work tomorrow, attend the gathering but not drink and party hard so you can wake up early, or you can stay at home and prepare yourself for your job the next day. The whole point of this is, you don’t often need to have the great stuff to be able to balance things in life. You don’t always get what you want too because there are sacrifices to make. And when you care a lot about things, you might have to sacrifices a lot as well. That’s pretty much depressing, isn’t that right? No one can handle proper decision-making. That’s especially when the things they want battles with the things they need and have to do. With that, it gets challenging to process physical, emotional and mental strength that helps in grinding through the rest of what life has to offer.
When you insist on managing and balancing all aspects of life without considering consequences, you might end up spending a considerable portion being stressed out and depressed. Yes, you might potentially pull it off and handle everything in your preference, but it’s more like you’ll become resentful and unhappy with your decisions. At this point, you will eventually lose everything, and that’s a bad thing to happen. So instead of trying to get a hold of what you think you “can” always handle, try considering values that matter most. At least set your priorities, responsibilities, and goals so that you can work on it one at a time. You don’t have to rush it nor handle it all together to achieve it.